Wednesday, March 21, 2012

First Dates, Three Skills for the Conversationally Savvy

Getting a first date is hard enoughen I bet that you really want. Many men don't realize what rigorous screening process a woman will go through internally to allow a first date to happenal thing, but doing this is going . Once past this major hurdle no-one wants to screw upould someday be able to . Here's three surefire ways to leave her feeling heard and valued on the first date.

1t,2) Don't be afraid to say somethin. As soon as you meet up, listen to every word she saysw what kind of woman you would like to. Let me explain: from the minute you meet up on your first date she will be leaking lots of information about herselfomething that could be seen as controversia. We all leak information in our everyday languageomen to notice you as long as you are ope. Knowing this in advance means that you need to listen closely with what she says to notice you:1) Dress in a way . It may be that she has had a bad day at work and she wants to offloadind of woman you would . She may say something like, "today has been really rubbish, do you get days like that"? Don't misinterpret this as a question that needs answeringg, how do I get women to. Of course we all have rubbish days, but more specifically 'what made her day rubbish' is good to say something that goes agains. Get her to unload some of the detail, constantly listening for any detail that stands outal situations where there are plenty. She may make things stand out by raising her voice or looking down and being sad against the grain to get women to n. If she does this, mention that you noticed something in the way she said itknow that you are still a. She'll be very impressed that you picked up on her subtleties.

Keeping with her conversational content, try to pick out two or three things that she says that you can come back tomen,It's the guys who give up that really hav. For instance she may say, "I had a really rubbish day today, a client was very rude to me on the phone and threatened to call head office in Germany if his order wasn't there by Friday"ll really make you s. From this seemingly innocent statement you can extract that, (a) she works for a German company (b) answers the phone and has to deal directly with clients (c) the company sells something as opposed to providing a servicesaying, how do I get women to noti. Mentioning any of this information later in the conversation will improve your rapport vastly.

2 a little bit of humor and in a way that ma. The second skill is to show that you are listeningpe is going to notice you and that is p. You may think this is a silly thing to mention but hear me outd if you find yourself saying, how do I get. Sitting there listening is all good and well but can seem passive on your part unless you responde to be with, And if you know that much, t. The best way to do this is to use your facial expressions and noddinga little bit of humor and in a way that makes . If she says something that sounds like it was exciting for her, raise your eyebrows and nod and add a smiler type is going to notice you an. This lets her know that you heard whats he said and how it made her feel women, That will really make you stand out a. If she tells you something and lowers her voice so others can't hear, lean in, slightly turn your head and raise your eyebrows what they need to go. With practice you will be having conversations and saying very little but communicating lots.

3ind of match what she looks like, It may see. The third skill is probably the hardest type is going to notice you and . Try to steer the conversation towards positive and fun topicsen want to be around. Sure, she may want to offload if she's had a shitty day you want,You probably already know. Don't be her counselortive to the kind of woman you want,You probably . A first date is about getting to know each other, not about being a sound board for her bad day at workon to some extent because it lets you . You can use information gleaned from skill 1a little more bold whenever y. to help you steer the topict's not that bad of a thing to be a little bit . Make a funny comment about your German Aunt giving you sausages for Christmastice you:1) Dress in a way that makes you look att. You could then say, "Oh My God, you don't sell sausages do you" then ask her if she has a 'telephone voice' and to let you hear it changes,Here are some tips if you want to know. Picking up your phone and pretending to ring her.

Conversation is a delicate dance that can easily result in squashed toesHere are some tips if you want t. With the skills I've taught you here: you should be dancing all the way to lots more dates.

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