How to Ask a Girl Out Over Text

In the 21st century it is not unheard of to ask a girl out via text messaging. Gone are the days of calling or arriving on her doorstep with hat in hand and asking.

In fact, these days, texting for a date can save a great deal of time. Imagine a guy has met a girl some place; he is interested, she is interested but each person has other commitments for a few days and thus unable to meet.

In this type of scenario, a text invitation would be most convenient. There also less shock should the girl reject an invitation to go out. Guys feel embarrassed when, after asking a girl for a date, she politely refuses.

It is worse when she rejects him in front of his friends; with a text invitation, no one need know. Men do not like rejection and thus if a guy is going to text an invitation to a girl, he must word the text correctly.

A man should never write a cursory note to a girl like she is one of his buddies, is not going to score him any points, regardless of whether she is interested or not.

Clearly, there are advantages to texting a girl asking for a date and as mentioned, above, it is becoming the norm rather than the exception.

Guys, however, need to seriously consider how to ask a girl out over text before sending it. Obviously this text request is for the first date and thus very important. One silly mistake and a guy may see the girl of his dreams reject him.

So, let's assume this "date asking text" is a follow-up text to the first one sent after meeting the girl. The guy can sense, through her replies, that she is interested in him and now he is ready to ask her out.

The first thing he needs to do is figure out where he is going to take her. Will it be a movie, a romantic dinner followed by a show or concert? This is very important. Just sending a text asking her out is not enough.

She will quite possibly ask, "Where are we going?" She does not want, or need, to read a guy's return text with simply the word "Pub".

Deciding the place to go should be based on what she likes to do. The guy should know her likes and dislikes from their initial meeting - men don't have a choice at this stage of a relationship.

Once the venue is decided the guy must them draft the text he is going to send. Now, it must be short, to the point and understandable. Do not discombobulate her with too many details.

Guys who intend on driving their date to some place should ask where and how they will meet the girl.

For the guys who don't own a vehicle or perhaps have lost their license then perhaps arranging to meet at some well-known place is the only option.

I suppose he could ride over to her house or apartment on a bicycle and spend the evening staring at a TV screen but that is not really a date, is it? If a guy is planning an afternoon excursion to the mountains or a river/beach some place, he should recommend that the girl dress appropriately.

Men should always remember that women dress, not only for a man but also for the venue.

How to ask a girl out over text messaging does not require any special skills just some common sense. Any guy following the above ideas will, I'm sure, have an excellent night or day out.

Finally, make sure that what you write is correct. Do not be lazy and send a text filled with grammar and spelling mistakes. Good luck.