If you are like me, and you tend to look at a lot of articles and advice columns that have to do with dating, you will end up seeing that there is a new breed of advice aimed at men that kind of implies that being yourself is a really bad thing. This kind of advice usually comes from those that are suggesting that you adapt routines and lines and such to try and attract women. Now, that might make you wonder... is it bad advice to be yourself if you want to attract women?
From what I see, sometimes it can be and sometimes it's not. How do you like that vague answer, lol? Seriously, though, sometimes you need to take a look at yourself and see what you can change and sometimes, you really don't have to change much at all.
I think a much stronger case can be made for the idea of being a better version of yourself.
What do I mean by this?
Well, when most guys are trying to attract a certain woman or they are trying to make a good impression, they tend to become smaller versions of themselves. They get very self conscious, always worried about whether or not they say the right thing and they tend to tone down certain parts of their personality because they think it will be seen as a turnoff to a woman.
Of course, sometimes that is the case, but most of the time... you will do much better and actually attract a woman who is RIGHT for YOU by being a better version of who you already ARE.
As you can probably tell, I am not one of those guys that believes in faking it till you make all that much when it comes to dating. There is too much "work" involved in trying to put on an act and become a totally new guy just to try and get attention from women. I am much too lazy for all of that.
So, what exactly is a better version of yourself?
To put in plainly, it is just becoming a more dynamic and more confident version of who you already are. Are you a Star Wars fan? Don't be ashamed about it... be CONFIDENT about it!
A good rule of thumb in life in general is to always be working on producing a better version of yourself. Strive for better things, but don't lose sight of who you are. Let's say that you are in a club and you are talking to a woman and you are trying to use one of those fake routines that so many guys rely on. Do you think she is going to walk away and say to herself, WOW, that guy is cool?
Probably not and here is why. Women are very good at sniffing out the real you. They usually can tell when it is just an act and if that is the impression that they get... you usually lose out.
On the other hand, if you are really confident about yourself, and you don't try to play "small" in any way, she will at least walk away with RESPECT for you. And a lot of the time... she will walk away thinking that you are actually pretty cool and fun to be around... even if you are a Star Wars fan.
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