Conversation is the life-blood of a date. Conversation is what allows you to get to know your date and whether you are compatible with them or not, and the better the conversation is, the better you will feel about the date.
So how do you keep a conversation going strong without awkward silences that can ruin a date's potential? Here are 5 things to try on your next date to ensure the conversation is always on the go.
1. Ask Questions about Their Interests
This seems obvious but may people don't do it! Many people will instead try talking about themselves to the other person which gives their date nothing to talk about in return. The objective of a conversation is to have both parties talking and not just one person, so when you ask them questions you allow them to respond to you, and you give yourself an opportunity to ask for further details.
You will want to ask questions about their interests. A good way to phrase it is "What is your favourite...?" When they tell you then you can start a conversation about whatever they answer with. And as a bonus you know they will be interested in it because it's their favourite thing!
2. Listen Quietly
So many times we interrupt people with our thoughts while they are talking. That's because our brains are always working and we are constantly thinking about how the conversation applies to our life and views. But that doesn't make for a good conversation, and if you interrupt your date enough they may just stop offering information to you all together. So when they are talking you should be listening without interruption.
3. Maintain Eye Contact
Most of what we say is through our body language, and if you are not maintaining eye contact while they are talking then you are showing non-interest in what they have to say. This will result in them shutting down and keeping their thoughts to themselves. I mean really, who want's to talk to someone who is not interested in them? So maintain eye contact and show your interest in them!
4. Respond Enthusiastically
The way you respond to your date also can show interest or non-interest. If you respond by saying "Oh yeah" or some other boring response then you will have them wondering if you really want to hear what they have to say.
On the other hand, if you respond with an enthusiastic "Wow! That's so cool!" then they will feel as though you are really interested in what they have to say and continue the conversation to receive more praise and positive acknowledgement.
5. Admit Ignorance
Many people are scared to admit that they don't know what their date is talking about but doing so is one of the best ways to ensure a conversation keeps going!
When you admit you don't understand them, or know anything about the topic they are discussing, it gives them a chance to show off their knowledge and really explain things to you. This can lead into an interesting conversation where you learn something new and they feel good for teaching you it.
These 5 tips should always help you keep the conversation going strong on a date. Use them to your advantage!
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