One Simple Trick to Getting a Girl's Number

Are you one of those guys who can't seem to get a girl's number to save his life?

I was, too. Until I figured out a neat little trick that seems to work wonders - and now helps me get the numbers of girls I like all the time.

It might sound a little counter-intuitive, but basically it works like this: stop trying to get her number, and you will.

Now, I don't mean not to have a goal in your interactions with women. You should always be focused on your goal, whether that's to just hang out with her and chat, to get her number, or to ultimately get her back to your place.

Being focused on the goal will help you stay on course in your interactions with women, and will actually help them decide whether they're interested in you, so it's a mutually beneficial thing.

But here's the key: you need to let go of the attachment of outcomes.

This means, giving up the idea that you absolutely NEED to get her number. You don't need it; you'll be just as happy going home on your own, or finding another girl (because there are plenty out there).

By giving up the strict notion that you need to get her number, you will automatically be more relaxed in your interactions with women. Think about it: if you're on stage giving a speech, for example, or say, a business presentation, do you think you'll be more successful if you're tense and nervous about what the audience thinks, or relaxed and confident?

(By the way, you can learn how to be confident. It's not some inborn skill that everyone has - and while it comes naturally to some people, it's a struggle for others. But absolutely everyone on earth has the ability to be confident if you simply practice.)

So to recap, the way you're going to get a girl's number is simple:

Chat with her. Relax and enjoy being with her. Talk about whatever comes to mind; the weather, your favorite books or something neat a friend showed you recently are good topics. (Try to avoid hot topics like politics and global warming, since they might lead you to an intense debate. Not great when you're trying to get her number!)

Then, as she warms up to you, you can gradually steer the conversation back to her, to her interests and hobbies. Chances are, she'll just give you her number, because you've proven to her you're a likable, relaxed kind of guy. (Guys like that are very attractive to women.)

If you take nothing else from this article, take this: relax, and don't worry about your outcomes with women. Don't fret about whether or not you get her number, and your odds of success at actually getting it will increase exponentially.

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