Ways To Fix A Bad Relationship

When you are aiming or currently in a long term relationship, do not expect that everything will run smoothly and as planned. This is because at some point in the relationship something will go out of hand and what once was smooth will become rocky and unmanageable. Often times, when this happens, the couple would panic and fights will break off. It would also, at times, leave the couple in doubt and be tempted to put an end to the relationship. However, if both of you would still want to try to work things out, fixing a relationship would deem to be relatively simple.

One of the first few things to do when fixing a bad relationship is to determine what is going on. Encourage your partner to sit down with you and talk and assess the relationship. Try your best to evaluate everything and determine the real deal. Try to ask yourself if you are still happy, contented or plainly disappointed.

Once you have determined the real state of the relationship, it is time to move to the next step and that is to determine the root cause of the problem. However, when reaching this stage, avoid using accusative tone or words as this will only aggravate the situation. As much as possible use your words wisely and carefully because once your partner would sense that you are being accusative, he/she will panic and, at most times, a fight will begin. An example which is, instead of saying "you are always late that is why I am always angry", say it like this, "the next time we set a date, let us try our best to meet the schedule and be on time so that both of us will not be disappointed and end up fighting." If you notice, the latter statement is more pleasant to hear because it indicates that you are not blaming him/her. Instead, you are presenting that both parties had shortcomings; thus, both should do something about it.

Once you have determined the real state of the relationship as well as the problem, it is now time to take full responsibility of whatever solution both of you had agreed upon. This is because a solution would be deemed useless if neither one of you will take action to correct what is wrong and to do something on what is due. However, when implementing the solution, learn to be patient. Give each other a room to change and apply the solution in real life.

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