There is a ton of information on how to get a boyfriend but a lot of single people I know prefer to enlist the help of a professional matchmaker. Are they that hopeless? No, it's not that they are hopeless but they are definitely clueless. Paying for a pro would cost a lot of money and I'm sure affluent people wouldn't mind but what about the rest of us who can't afford the service of a matchmaker? Don't fret because you can be your own matchmaker by following the tips below:
1.) Be Girlfriend Material
No matter how gorgeous you look, if you are not girlfriend material, no man would ever want to commit to you. So, what does the term "girlfriend material" exactly mean? Men want a woman they can be comfortable with, someone they can be themselves with without trying to impress them. If you have a good sense of humor, you definitely have to use that to win a man's heart. Guys love a woman who can make them laugh.
Another thing that guys have a problem with is being high-maintenance. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with going the extra mile to look good and buy designer clothes. You've worked hard and you deserve to own the things you have but when a man sees you for the first time, he's already making some mental notes whether or not he can afford to support your lifestyle or at least be in your circle. They want to have a relationship with a woman who has the same lifestyle, interests and hobbies. For most men, high-maintenance chicks are just not worth it.
2.) Set Some Standards but Be Realistic
There's a big difference between making a list of the characteristics you want in a guy and being delusional. It's perfectly OK to have "the list" but don't adhere to it as a matter of life and death. Treat that list as a guide or a framework and if you can be vague about it the better. So what if the guy is not tall enough? So what if he can't cook? So what if he can't write long love letters? Women tend to sweat about the small stuff and get too consumed with the superficial side of things, things that don't really matter in a relationship.
When you are expecting so much from a person, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. Why do you want someone perfect when you are not perfect yourself? Just like what Steve Harvey (author of Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man) once said- "Are you willing to be the same thing to him that you are talking about on that list?" I don't know about you but that hits the nail right on its head!
We all have flaws and faults but there is that little thing called "Love" so we can see past all those shallow things that we are looking for in a partner. At the end of the day, looks and money don't really matter because these things can disappear in an instant. Find a man who has a loving heart and the willingness to commit to you.
3.) The last tip I can give you on how to get a boyfriend is to make dating a top priority. Keep your eyes open on possibilities and don't be afraid to try out new things or visit new places. The more you get yourself in new situations, the higher your chances are in meeting "The One". If anything, treat it as a job hunt. Meet and interview as many candidates as possible. Always be prepared because sometimes you'll meet someone when you least expect it. Wear clothes that make you look your best (short shorts and tight tank tops are out). Lastly, it wouldn't hurt to change your routine. Instead of going to your favorite coffeehouse near your apartment, why don't you try the Starbucks a couple of blocks away from you?
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