So you have decided to find love online. You have made a good decision. But now you realize that all the world has to judge you on is that tiny online dating personals profile. For such a small box it has to say so much. Not only does that personals profile have to show you to the world, it also has to let the world know what you are looking for. Your profile will be your first exposure to a potential match on all the dating websites.
- Whether it's a singles dating website, married dating website, Christian dating website or any of the others the personals profile will be about the same.
First you will need a couple of decent pictures of yourself. The pictures you select will have to be appropriate to the type of website you decided to use. Always have one nice picture of yourself to put up front. You will see many profiles with slightly or blatantly sexual pictures on their main profile picture. Don't do that! Put a good clothed picture of you on the front of your profile. Now depending on the type of website you are using upload a couple of gallery pictures into your profile for invited or permission only guests to view. This works on two fronts. First the nice picture up front gives people a good impression of you and really shows them you. Secondly if they are interested in seeing more pictures of you it works like a reward. They have to go into your gallery usually with your permission and the anticipation grows.
Your gallery pictures should reflect the type of site you are using. If you are on a singles dating site you may want to have a swimsuit picture or a picture of you at home. If you are on a Christian dating website you should stick to lots of clothes. But say you are on a cougar website (websites for older women seeking younger men) then your gallery photos might need to be a little risqué. The reasoning is this you are on a casual sex type website and attempting to entice a younger person to your boudoir. Go ahead and pull out all the stops. Now for men this is different if you are on an older man seeking younger women type of website don't post pictures of your junk.
I repeat, men do not post pictures of your junk.
Women have said time and time again that they don't want to open your gallery and see your penis. Post some shirt off or swimsuit style pictures in your profile but not anything more. If a woman wants to see your stuff she will ask you.
- Second let's decide what you are looking for.
This is your opportunity to weed out all the potential mismatches. When you put what you are seeking into your profile it clearly tells the world what is important to you. You don't have to be extremely specific just general categories will work well. For instance don't put in that you are seeking someone who enjoys going to college basketball games on Saturday nights featuring big ten teams. Put someone who enjoys sports in your profile. This will not only let everyone know what you like it will give them an idea of what you don't want.
Now put in a description of yourself. Be honest on your online personals profile. If you are lucky you will get to meet potential matches and you better be who you said you were. No big surprises. Think of three adjectives that come to mind about you and build a sentence or two on those. For instance tell them you are an active person who enjoys the outdoors and being around the water. Or perhaps say that you are a cultured person who enjoys going to the theater. Short but mentioning the categories that are important to you. This will keep a Broadway play fan from being stuck on a date with a demolition derby fan.
These preferences will also be used by the website to attempt to match you with potential mates so be honest.
Don't present yourself as anyone you don't want to live up toin your online dating personals. Don't ask for anything you might not want to live with. From here it's just a cruise. Reading profiles and meeting potential matches can be fun and give your life some real zing. Don't expect the first match or meeting to be perfect but enjoy the process all the same. Most of all meet some great people, enjoy the process and have fun.
Good Luck!!
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