Unattached Sex - How to Get Friends With Benefits

What is Friends with Benefits? It's a very nice arrangement where two people are able so sleep together - yet they remain unattached and still see other people. So many guys out there want this, but they don't know how to manage expectations correctly.

Let's start from the beginning. A man approaches a girl and he manages to get her phone number. Later, he takes her out on a date. How should he act? Apart from being charming, and completely on his A-Game he needs to set the correct frames right out of the gate. Do not run deep comfort. Keep it playful and keep sexual tension high. If the girl sees you as boyfriend material she will try and foist this frame on you, and most likely wait before sleeping with you. If she does this, you may well already be sunk!

You want to lead this interaction all the way to the bedroom and fuck her brains out like the amazing guy you are. Right after sex is a crucial time; when I am in this position I normally say something along the lines of: "You know what Rebecca, you're pretty damn cool. Most girls would start getting all clingy and talking about a relationship after this, but you aren't doing that." Even if she wants a relationship she won't talk about it than, because she wants you to think she is "cool"

This frame is the most important thing. You cannot feel guilty about just wanting sex. Girls go out looking to get fucked ALL THE TIME. You are a guy with a high sex drive. Embrace it. Love it. Just think of it as two cool people giving each other a mutually enjoyable experience.

Now that you slept with her and set the frame, you need to cement it. Keep going out with her once a week at most. If you see her more, social conditioning is going to kick in. Make sure every time you see her as well, it ends in sex.

You already have everything set up. You just need to not fuck up at this point by making yourself seem like boyfriend material. This means don't get jealous if she fucks other guys, don't complain about your problems at work, and no romantic dates please...

In closing, friend with benefits is straightforward and you can do it with a non-needy and dominant frame. Just make sure that when you find out she is dating me to, you won't be mad!