It's impossible to get over your ex and move on with your life if you can't stop thinking about her. The more you think about her, the more you miss her and the worse you will feel. Whether you want to get her back or simply move on with your life you need to be able to control your thoughts in a constructive way. That's exactly what I want to teach you in this article!
Before I start I just want to let you know that whatever your current situation, whether you just want to move on or get her back, this article can help you. For moving on it's obvious why this article is useful but for those looking to try and get her back let me explain. After the break up I highly recommend that you go through a 30 day no contact phase and if you are constantly thinking about her it may cause you to have a moment of weakness and call her which would destroy your chances of getting her back. This article can help you avoid being those moments of weakness.
I remember when I broke up with my ex I couldn't sleep properly for the first two weeks. It was horrible! When I was awake I felt like a zombie because my mind was constantly analysing where things had gone wrong and asking questions like "How could she do this to me?". I had felt very betrayed as she cheated on me. I spent a lot of time and energy focusing on how/why she did that. This is what I like to kill victim thinking.
Victim thinking is so detrimental to leading a good life. You may have friends who are victim thinkers who often say things like "Why does this always happen to me?" or "Why don't good things happen to me?". Perhaps you may even have these thoughts yourself.
The thing is... our brains are really really powerful and whatever questions we ask ourselves our brain will answer them. So when people ask themselves "Why does this always happen to me?" their brain then gives them answer to that question "It's because you are poor/short/fat/bald/stupid etc. etc.". This is obviously not healthy to carry these mental beliefs.
Our questions control our focus and our focus controls what we do!
To stop thinking about your ex girlfriend you need to change the questions running through your mind. One of the greatest and most powerful questions when something bad happens is - "What's great about this?" you may be thinking "Nothing! This is shit!"... OK well then ask yourself "What could be great about this?". You may start thinking well I now have time to hang out with friends or go travelling or whatever takes your fancy.
So the key is to ask better questions. Focus on what can be great in your life now that you are single again. It's also important that you try to remove triggers or reminders of her. For example if you have pictures of her lying about or texts on your phone get rid of it.
Focus on improving your life and keeping yourself busy and the new possibilities available to you. Every cloud has a silver lining and it's up to you to find it.
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