Lets have a look at a problem that is so common, it almost seems silly to mention it... It's the idea that too often we let our powerful minds and emotions take over, resulting in us to fail with women rather than succeed with women.
Having a fear of women can become a habit and that will only lead to one thing..failure. Let me ask you this question: Have you ever been somewhere where you noticed a girl that you really want to make contact with, but you didn't go over and talk to her? Well, of course you have, we've all been there! But, the question I really want to answer is "Why?"
Why is it when we see a woman that we'd like to talk to, we don't just walk over and start talking to her? What is it that is going on inside our head that is preventing us from just doing it? Why do we stop ourselves from being successful, it could be so easy!
And, an even more interesting question is: How do we overcome this self-defeating attitude of thought and action? I have friends who manage to get phone numbers, from girls they've just met, like they were going out of fashion! On the other hand, I know of others that can't even ask a woman for her number after they've talked to her on a number of occasions... and they know she's single!
The short answer is that most of us let our emotional reactions and our imaginations keep us from taking action. By the way, I know a lot more of this type of friend... So, what is going on here? Well, like most answers to questions like this one, the solution is very simple yet it works on a highly complex level. Confidence.
How To Boost Your Confidence
The short answer is that most of us let our first emotional reaction and our imagination keep us from taking action. In other words, you see a woman you want to meet, you become nervous (for reasons you cannot explain), you feel fear, you make all kinds of negative mental images, and finally decide that it just isn't worth it and it is too hard... so you end up giving up and just walk away.
Isn't this CRAZY behaviour? Surely it doesn't make any sense at all when you stop and think about it, right? Doesn't it make sense that we should just accept that nothing bad is going to happen, and therefore change your behaviour toward women? So, what's the answer?
- Firstly you must break the habit of making yourself feel afraid, learn the habit of feeling GOOD and OPTIMISTIC about yourself.
- I understand that you probably have been doing things the way you do them for some time now, I did and it took practice for me to be able to change my habits, so I realise what you are feeling right now, rest assured though as these tips will help you out no end:
- Take time to vividly imagine the BEST possible outcome of walking up and talking to a woman. Each time you see a woman that you'd like to meet, just do this. Try it out for a while. Then, accept that the BEST outcome is far more likely than your WORST idea of what could happen. Read that again. Your BEST outcome is far more likely than your worst.
- Make a realistic list of the worst things that may happen, then, decide exactly what you would do if any of those things on that list actually did happen. You will soon realise that you can handle them and can live through it!
As you appreciate that NOT taking the risk to meet a woman is actually a bigger risk in the long run of your overall life. If you risk not meeting her, you will never know what could have been, and if you let it become a habit, it will keep you from realising ALL your dreams in life. Makes sense doesn't it?! Use these ideas and put them into practice to overcome your habit of not talking to women. Do it now!
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