3 Things You Need To Do Starting Today If You Want To Win Your Ex Back!

So you lost the love of your life and you are heartbroken? Been there. So has just about everyone else out there over the age of 16 or 17, so don't feel alone. The difference between me (and potentially you) and most of those other folks is that most of them did one of two things wrong. Either they gave up and didn't even try, even though they knew their lives would be much happier with their ex back in it; or they went about trying to get their ex back using all the wrong methods.

I, on the other hand, did the right things to get her back as well as avoided the stupid mistakes that lots of people make. That's why we got back together and are still together today.

Here are the top three things you need to do starting today if you want to win your ex back.

1. Stop spilling your guts on Facebook, Twitter, or any other social site! Nothing will make you look more pathetic. Even more, doing this will make your ex less motivated and feel less of a sense of urgency to make things work because they will know you aren't moving on anytime soon. Don't think that veiling the meaning behind your post using song lyrics, movie quotes, or other vague references will fool them either. Both women and men alike are attracted to confidence above everything else, and there is nothing confident about crying in public. Keep your Facebook and Twitter posts about sports or the weather.

2. No "what are you up to?" texts -- especially on Friday and Saturday night? If you send these pathetic texts, you might as well send "please tell me you aren't out with (or worse, sleeping with) someone else!" instead, because that's what they are going to read. A better idea is to cut off contact completely on the weekends and let them wonder what you are doing!

3. Give them some time to cool off -- then call. Notice I said call. Not text, Facebook, or Twitter. Do your own thing and let him or her do the same for about a week, that way you can both clear your heads, then pick up the phone. If they are receptive, have an honest conversation about how you feel and ask them their feelings. Most importantly, LISTEN. Don't beg, plead, and spill your guts. Chances are, what comes out of their mouth will give you an indication as to what your next move should be.