A woman's instinct can be a powerful weapon, or a paranoia-causing nuisance. If you have the nagging feeling that he's messing around and playing you, sometimes you have to look for certain signs before you directly accuse him.
Here's what to watch for:
He Doesn't Look You in the Eye as Much as You'd Like
If his eyes tend to shift around a lot, especially during important conversations, it may be normal nervousness that we all get from time to time.
There's always the chance that it's something not as innocent. A guy will be very uncomfortable around you if he's feeling guilty and he will avoid gestures of intimacy such as eye contact.
He Gives Too Many Details
If he always tells elaborate stories about what happened and why, who he was with, etc., that's a bad sign. It indicates that he spends too much time planning out his answers so you won't catch him in a lie.
He Uses Pet Names A Lot
Does he call you things like "Baby," "Darlin,'" "Angel," "Kitten," "Honey," or something along these lines? It may sound charming, and you may enjoy it, but keep in mind that many men love to use pet names with ladies because it lessens their chances of getting your names confused!
If he's dating several other women besides you, he can't exactly ask you all to wear name tags. He's likely to have screwed up names before and probably paid severely for it; as a result, this guy sticks to pet names to stay out of trouble.
He's Very Particular About Which of His Friends You Hang Out With
Since he's likely to doubt the ability of his buddies to keep their mouths shut and not give him away on accident, he'll be wracking his brain trying to decide who is "safe" to bring around you and who is not.
The life of a serial cheater or player can get very complicated; he has a web of lies to keep in tact every day. With lying about his whereabouts comes more lying. And the more people in his camp that are around you socializing with you, the higher the chance that one of them will say something that will blow his playboy scheming to bits.
He Changes or Cancels Plans at the Last Minute
His schedule is an ever-changing landscape if he's playing you. Men who juggle several women at once have to determine when to be with which girl.
Changing plans or canceling dates with you at the last minute is not only disrespectful, it's a clue that he's trying to keep a jam-packed dating life somewhat in order.
He Has Hundreds of Excuses to Not Spend the Night
He'll hang out at your place before the two of you make love, and of course he'll have sex with you. But if he's never ever actually slept next to you, that's a huge clue you're being played.
Womanizer types never want this kind of intimacy, and not only can he not commit to one girl, but he cringes at the thought of committing to you or any woman even for the night.
His Electronic Devices are all Password-Protected
This is the tell-tale sign of a cheater. He's probably learned his lesson: A paranoid girlfriend that he used to be with probably went through his Blackberry while he was sleeping or saw pictures and messages on his laptop that caused a huge problem.
Since he's incapable of changing and just doesn't have the ability to be monogamous, he is trying to beat the system instead. Password protection is only acceptable if he has some sort of classified government job; since this is unlikely to be the case, it means he has plenty of things to hide from you.
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