How to Get a Girl's Attention - Overcoming the Barrier Preventing Your Approach!

How to get a girl's attention is meant to be easy right? Just go up to her and say hi, say a few clever things that ultimately lead you to getting her number, follow up, take her on a date and get that kiss. The steps all seem logical and easy to do.

Then what is all this emotional stuff that comes up for us when we approach the women. And why is it that you haven't been able to work out how to get a girl to like you?

Actually, how to make a girl like you is not a good goal to set for yourself. You can't 'make' a girl like you the same way you can 'make' a car go in a certain direction. Putting it like this is like you want to take control of a woman. Do you like to be controlled? I didn't think so. So why would she like or be interested in someone who wants to control her?

The only reason you would want to 'control' a woman is because you are insecure in your ability to attract her naturally, and keep her interested over other guys. It is a confidence thing. This is the barrier that also prevents you from easily flowing smoothly through the above sequence without emotions coming up and getting in the way.

The emotions come up because you want a certain outcome. You are not comfortable with accepting any other result as this result is unpredictable. The unpredictability of it makes you fear the approach because if it doesn't go as planned, it leaves you feeling worse than if you didn't approach her at all!

To be confident is to be free of the need to be in control. You are able to accept 'what is', no matter what happens. You will begin to master how to get a girl's attention once you start to accept whatever responses you get from women without them unsettling you emotionally.

And it is extremely attractive for a woman, to see a guy who is grounded and not easily shaken by what is happening around him. The only thing you should look to be in control of in life is your internal state, because the only thing that is certain in life is uncertainty! Accept the uncertainty that dating women brings and you'll be on your way to mastering how to get a girl's attention!