Is your man still attached to his ex or are you simply insecure about her? Does it make you feel unhappy or fearful of losing him whenever you think about his ex? Is there anything that you can do to get him to forget his ex?
i. Do not bad mouth her! Yes it is tempting to talk ill of her but this just makes him defensive of her while showing him how insecure you are about her. When you talk ill of her then you question your man's ability to choose since he chose her and loved her... once upon a time. To get him to forget his ex then you must leave her in the past!
ii. Do not encourage him to bad mouth her. In order to get him to forget his ex then discourage negative talk about her from him. You don't want to keep her alive in the relationship by keeping conversation about her going. If he is still angry with her then he is not over her and you need to tread carefully so that you don't fire his feelings for her even more. If he rants and raves about her then he is not ready to be in a relationship with you unless you want to play second fiddle to his ex... until he gets her out of his system OR goes back to her.
iii. Do not get into altercations with her. Be gracious to her when you run into her or ignore her if you don't know her well but avoid angry exchanges with her at all costs. If she is of the angry and bitter variety than avoid her if you can. Fighting her will not make him forget her as it will simply bring her back into his mind and into your relationship. To get him to forget about his ex you must treat her like she is not a sore spot in your life.
iv. Don't keep asking him to compare which one of you is better at doing different things. Sometimes you just want to know that you were better than her in some things and you may fish for compliments in comparison to her. The familiar... don't I look better than your ex or don't I cook better than that ex of yours? Avoid such comparisons... he is with you now so don't keep bring her back into the relationship.
v. Don't keep comparing yourself to her. Privately and in your quiet moments avoid comparing yourself with her. She will have some qualities that you admire and wish you had but don't sabotage your happiness by constantly thinking about how great she looks or does some things. If you compare yourself with her than you will feel insecure and unhappy with whom you are and you will bring that unhappiness to your relationship with him... and his mind may wander back to the happier ex.
To get him to forget his ex you must keep her out of your relationship by the things you say and do.
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