In the dating world, mature dating is a specific animal all to itself. We've lost our rose-colored glasses and can see the world much more clearly. Most of us have all completed our higher education and if we have a career, it is pretty well established.
The lists detailing our perfect mate have more substance because whatever our belief system may be, it is firmly entrenched to who we are, be it political, religious and what we want out of life. Most have a household and have had for some time. We have blenders, toasters and maybe, even a food processor.
We have all ridden the wild merry-go-round of good and bad relationships, and possibly, a divorce or two. Most of us have all had our hearts broken, at least once.
When we are younger, the perfect mate list may have read something like, cute, funny, wants to be a cowboy or cowgirl, likes the same bands I do, can drink beer from a funnel without choking and other silly and meaningless requirements.
In the mature dating world, the list looks more like, financially stable, financially responsible, a good parent, divorce is final, shares the same political beliefs, and are there any serious health issues.
Don't try to overcompensate for the effects of aging. Don't color your hair an unnatural shade of blonde or put on some ill-fitting toupee. Be yourself because that's all you can be. You'd be surprised to find out how many older people think that wrinkles are sexy.
One of the easy things about dating at this age is that you, more than likely, know who you are and you are probably a bit more confident in yourself. When you get older, you have had the opportunity to learn from your mistakes and have probably worked on getting rid of many of the negative traits of your character.
Most people mellow out as they get older, because they no longer focus on things that are a waste of time and fighting is one of those things. Most people want peace in their life as they get older. There is no time to waste on stupid drama, so the jealousy and insecurity of youth has long been conquered.
As long as you stay true to who you really are, maturing dating can be an adventure and give you an opportunity to enjoy activities you couldn't do alone. No matter the age, you can get online and find someone who loves to do the same things that you do. If you've always dreamed about doing something and didn't have anyone to do it with, this is a great way to find someone to help make that dream a reality.
You can relax and be your confident self. Mature dating allows you to be yourself and just enjoy going out and having a good time.
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