Changing Your Dating Life For the Better

If you think that you're going to be able to turn your dating life around with ease, I hate to be the bringer of bad news, but you're probably wrong. That just isn't the way things work. There is a lot that is different between a man who gets dates whenever he wants, and a man who never gets dates, and making all of those changes is going to take time. And if you try to do them all at once, you're just aiming yourself towards failure. So what is the best way to make these changes?

You need to decide on things you want to change in your every day life. Maybe you need to start shaving every day, because you don't look good with stubble, or maybe it's as basic as cleaning yourself every day. You need to start with these fundamental, daily changes, because they will become habits the easiest. If someone is in a really bad place, I will often suggest that they spend the first month just trying to establish good habits in the place of bad ones. This is because once you've established a habit, it'll stick with you, and it makes the other changes you need to make easier.

The biggest change, though, that a lot of men need to make, is that they need to start talking to women. It is really easy to slip into a place where you never talk to women, and that can make things incredibly hard. You'll start just assuming that conversations with women go the same as they do in the movies, and that kind of thinking can be completely lethal. So you need to find places to talk with real women. You can find my suggestions for places to meet women elsewhere, but for this in particular I really suggest speed dating: make a hundred first impressions, and see how women react, in a single hour. Possibly the best way to spend your time.

And finally, I see a lot of guys who suddenly had an epiphany that they need to get on top of their dating life, so they decide they're going to change everything at once. That isn't going to work. I've never seen someone turn their dating life around in a couple of days. It takes weeks at a minimum, maybe a year maximum if you're really working at it.

But it is possible, and there's nothing wrong with baby steps. They'll pay off in the end!