When one joins the ranks of the "newly dumped" the situation can (and often does) seem hopeless. Emotions and tension tightly wound, perhaps harsh words, often regrettable, makes the immediate future look very bleak, especially if the breakup catches you by surprise; you thought everything was humming along. Then, in a stunning instant, your whole world is upside down.
Whether you saw it coming or not, whatever prompted the breakup, whoever was at fault, one can never regret taking the high road. But before you focus on the "how to get back with your ex girlfriend", you probably should clarify in your own mind where you stand as far as the break up itself is concerned.
How Does She Really Feel About You?
Whatever the cause of the break up and who was responsible, it is a matter of whether or not you can both rise above it. It's really a futile situation to go through the motions of getting back together, and have you or your re-united ex, keep tearing the scab off of old issues, resulting in ongoing, recurring battles. So unless there can be a genuine settling of the issues that led to the break up, any advantage of re-uniting is very fleeting.
Attitude is All Important. Do you have enough insight, understanding and determination to turn things around? Your attitude makes all the difference. Attitude is the thing that takes you places, makes things happen, or NOT happen. But of course, you still need the willingness of your ex to reach an agreement with you.
If the blame for the break up was mostly on you, and you really want to reunite, rather than getting back together, your primary focus should be on you becoming a better you. This is really the big picture: How can I make me a better me so she would want me back.
Think back to when you first met. How are you different? What changed in you that she did a 180 on you. Try to get back to that person you were then. Or did she change, or did both of you change?
Going through a break up is one of life's major emotional trials, and unless you know the right steps to take, your gut feeling or intuition are not going to serve you very well, in fact, that approach is more about frustration and wheel spinning.
How Much Time are You Willing to Waste?
A lot of trial and error can put you on the wrong side of where you want to be with your ex. On the other hand, it is nothing short of amazing how fast the right information get you on the fast track to reuniting with your ex For starters, you probably need an apology (coming from you). If you have read my other articles, you are likely aware that "I'm Sorry" just doesn't cut it. Discover the sincere, heartfelt approach to apologizing--it's in a very valuable, FREE download called The Clean Slate Method. Also, you may want to Read my review of The Magic of Making up, which has helped Tens of Thousands of Exes get their ex back. Check out MOM, by TW Jackson, here > > > http://yesiwantmyexback.com/mom-review/
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