Learning to Appreciate the 'Differences' in Your Relationship!

Differences are not necessarily right or wrong, just different!

Is it not human nature to be drawn to others of likeness? Is it not logical that couples who have many things in common are most successful in relationships? That being similar to each other holds greater promise than being different?

How often have you heard someone remark how much they share in common with their partner, yet it has proved no guarantee?

Similarities or differences exist in so many facets of life from cultural, social, intellectual, political, physical, emotional realms... to the more intrinsic nature of values, goals and beliefs for example. The list is really immeasurable. Yet how does one measure the value of difference when the concept of difference is subjective?

When couples meet with a view of a future together, many people look for the commonalities. That is the shared interests, the mutual understandings, the similarities shared rather than the differences which aren't. Yet it is often the so-called 'differences' between people which can dictate the decision not to pursue a relationship as many people consider that it is our commonalities or similarities which complement and suggest a combined future of happiness, rather than the differences!

Similarities may be more easily enjoyed, because superficially they don't generally pose the threat of challenge. But where is the guarantee?

'Differences' on the other hand may require more 'work', 'energy', or 'considerations'... yet why not enjoy the challenge they pose rather than viewing them as an incompatibility. Consider what they can teach you!

Dwelling on your 'differences' can work to divide rather than drawing you closer. Attempt to create growth in your partnership by considering how your differences can complement your relationship rather than potentially creating conflict. Often 'difference' is blamed as a source of conflict.

Perhaps it is the contrasts that seemingly set us apart which can prove the attraction? Or the curiosity of the unknown and a willingness to learn and appreciate that which is not understood? Who's to judge what qualifies as 'different' anyway?
Differences are not necessarily right or wrong, just different!

If people spent less time focusing on their similarities and more time exploring and appreciating their differences, they may not be differences for too long.

So seeking similarities doesn't guarantee compatibility, so nor should differences be avoided. Attempting to view 'things in a new light' and celebrating your differences... may actually prove more complementary than you think!

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