Keeping It Positive During Romantic Fallout

It is never a good idea to use low-blows when it comes to love, though we all happen to be guilty of it at one time or another.

Human relationships will never be ideal, and when you believe that you will be in a romantic relationship and never argue with somebody then you definitely will fail. Not saying that everyone uses dirty pot-shots in order to "win" the actual discussion or get their way but quite a few people do.

These argument techniques can be particularly excruciating to people who have self esteem issues and expect you to be in their corner, not using their slights against them.

It is necessary that you avoid low blows, we usually do not mean to be cruel or use the imperfections of our girlfriend/boyfriend towards them but int he heat of the moment it happens.

Realize also that this is a two-way argument and that the nastiest things can be volleyed back at you just the same. Still, just because you are able to take it does not mean that you should dish it out.

Bad argument examples:
1. He is out with all the fellas and comes home at the break of dawn. Your current retaliation: Going out the next night in your "come and get it" costume and making yourself available to the alpha male Club-goers.

2. She accidentally threw out the lockbox you kept with your old baseball cards in it because she thought it was junk that was left over from the former residents of your home. Your current retaliation: you find an album of her favorite photos and "accidentally" throw it away.

3. He does not acknowledge your current new hair-do, so you thinks he hates it. Your current retaliation: never to compliment him on anything he does in the future,

4. You notice the woman getting helpful with a male coworker in the club. Your current retaliation: you corner her at home forcing her to explain the conversation in detail and to give proof that they aren't sleeping with one another.

Actively playing the retaliation card is a waste of your time, as well as almost never leads to a positive reaction. We should treat our loved ones as our loved ones and solve mysteries through communication, explanation and forgiveness.

Things get complicated when we start balancing reactionary flames in the down times with warm sentiments during the good times. Learn to trust, learn to love and go about things in a more positive way with your beaus.