It's 8:30 on a Friday night. As you face the mirror in front of you, with excitement, nerves, and delight, you go through your mental checklist: Hair is great, make up looks great; do these earrings work with this outfit? Am I showing too much cleavage? Is there anything in my teeth? Will he like this perfume? Did I miss anything shaving my legs? How will tonight end... ?
dating can be intimidating. Don't stress it! Relax and allow these positive suggestions to aid you on your journey in finding true love:
Bad Past experience: After the last egotistic, unmannered creep, I swore myself off from dating all together. There's nothing like a bad experience to force you to reconsider your next attempt at finding Mr. Right. Keep in mind, everyone you meet will be different. Some things you will like and others not. This is better known as choice. Have the attitude that the last date actually helped you narrow down want you really want and so on. Although it can be hard, sometimes it is necessary to move a lot of dirt to find a treasure. The point: don't give up!
Safety: These days we need to be a little more careful of the strangers we invite into our social circles. Especially in the early stages when we don't really know the other person. Always arrange the first dates in a public setting. Never over drink (keep an eye on your drinks); or use drugs. You may even want to double date at first. This not only provides a measure of safety if you ask a girlfriend to tag along. It will also give you a second opinion.
Waste of time? If you are the type that is tired of the repetitive evenings out, the same conversations, places to eat, or night clubs, always ending with someone who just wants to hook up, it can drive you insane. There are other options. First, why not try something completely different, even out of your comfort zone like bowling, laser tag, or even going shopping together. These types of settings can also reveal a person's true qualities like an overly competitive spirit, or what kind of taste they have.
Will my friends like him? Your friends no doubt know you well and assuredly have your back. Ultimately,YOU are the one that must decide on what you truly want in a companion. It's great to have that second opinion. But if you like him and your girlfriend tells you she would never date him, be glad for your lack of competition. Maybe she hates chocolate too! All the more for you! Caution: Love is blind. So don't be quick to overlook something your friends are obviously trying to protect you from. Have balance.
Your own worst enemy Negative questions: Am I worthy of true love? What happens if I like him, but he doesn't like me? Will my family accept him? These can take you out of the race before you enter. First of all, everyone is entitled to love and be loved. That is the key: love. You must love yourself first. After that, none of it matters. Love yourself and show love to others. Eventually you will reap all you desire in finding that special someone and much much more.
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