Almost everyone who has ever been in an intimate relationship has had a time when the other person has decided to leave. You might feel desperate when that moment happens to you, holding yourself back from chasing their car down the road. In fact, many women and men tell the story of making complete fools of themselves... chasing after someone who no longer wants to be in an intimate relationship with them. It is hard not to do this, especially if you were madly in love with the person who no longer has any use for you.
You might have even done something that drove them away; such as cheating. On the other hand, they may have decided to leave just because they needed to move on in a different direction... they just wanted to start over without you, or anyone! No matter what the reason, sometimes we get caught between the idea of letting them go or throwing our self-respect to the wind... so we can chase them until they come back to us.
So what do you do when someone decides to leaves you, and you have a strong urge to beg them to come back?
The first thing you have to remember is you are worthy of being loved by someone who can do it fully. There should be no need for desperation when another person decided to leaves you. If they leave, if they don't want you in their life: this means they were really not the right one for you.
They may decide later they have made a mistake and try to come back. Deal with that when, and if, it comes up. Until then, you need to work on yourself to improve those parts of you that need to be worked on. We all have areas that can be improved, and the end of a relationship is a good time to asses those areas and take action.
As hard as it is, the best thing you can do is allow them to go so you can give yourself time to really care for your emotions and spirit.
Remember... you cannot change what another person thinks and feels: that is their problem. We are all in our own individual place in life. Some people are more ready to take on a serious relationship than others. Our backgrounds, experiences in life, and personal self-esteem, all affect how we interact and accept love within a relationship.
Another important thing to remember when you feel the urge to chase their car down the street in an effort to get them to stay with you, is you have to take responsibility for your own feelings. Go deep inside and think about the good and bad words and actions you contributed to the relationship. In other words, make yourself healthier for the next relationship you enter into. And there will be one!
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